During my stay at a beautiful Ashram in America long years ago, I was consumed with worry about my future. You see, I had jumped out of the mainstream by quitting a great job in Manhattan, sold my lovely apartment, left good friends behind, and landed in the Himalayas without a parachute in the middle of a grueling winter. From there, still restless and seeking, I had moved around in both East and West, on a quest for that perfect refuge where I could focus on my creative and spiritual goals. But nothing seemed to work out and by now I was truly sunk in misery.
A friend saw my sad face; impulsively, she tore a page out of the book she was reading and handed it to me. The title said: Do Not Be Serious About Anything: it was a message from the guru of that Ashram, who advised his students not to take mundane life too seriously, but instead to dive beneath the surface and find the constant peace and joy that is our true nature.
The message begins like this: “We cannot really save the world. We cannot even destroy the world. It is not in our hands. If that Supreme Power wanted to save the world, it wouldn’t even take a second. All of us could be saints and sages overnight. Instead the Divine is allowing us to be a little ignorant. That is His fun. But we forget this and take life too seriously.”
That tattered yellowing page now sits on my computer desk and continues to remind me to make peace my priority. Since then I have returned to my original practice of Advaita. Ramana Maharshi’s definition of the ‘unreal’ is simple: that which comes and goes is not real. What does he mean by real? That which is permanent and lasting. And so again and again I return to what is real within me, to pure consciousness and bliss—and because I persist, the process works fabulously.
Those who have not plunged into the nuances of eastern philosophy might have problems with this message—but to someone steeped in these ancient truths, it becomes clear that nothing happens by accident—which is no reason to ignore the intense suffering of the millions surrounding us. This wisdom should actually lead us to being more and more compassionate, and to do whatever we can, without destroying our own equanimity and personal practice, to bring light and joy into as many lives as we can.
Getting back to the present with a bang, this morning I got a call from my downstairs guest who said we had a plumbing problem—this after having the plumbers here yesterday! Damn! I calmed down and did what I had to do, and right now it looks like everything is settling down again.
Later I sat down at my computer and my eyes fell on this message and an even deeper calm descended upon me. When I first read these simple words in that Ashram so long ago, peace was a dream, a flickering fantasy that came in flashes. Today it is a living current that keeps growing in sweetness and intensity—this despite external appearances! I owe this progress to Ramana’s brilliant Direct Path, and also to all the gurus (negative and positive) who have guided me along the often thorny road that leads to bliss.
Greetings from Arunachala, considered to be the living emanation of the Great God Shiva, Destroyer in the Indian pantheon, who reduces our egoic selves to ashes—so we can know ourselves as the blissful and immortal Self!
Having a sense of humor about myself, and realizing it’s not my job to save the world, but only as a light to the few, has saved me from going insane. The deeper I can breathe the funnier it all seems to get. Those who are whimsical seem most free. Of course, I also realize there is a time and place for the “serious matters” of the world (i.e. hypocrisy, injustice, killing, etc..) So I can see the danger in being always fruity as a tendency to gloss over some of the things that can be sad and might need our attention too once in awhile. Laughing and crying… 2 sides of the same coin?
I tend to laugh more than I cry, but I never laugh at people’s misfortune.
Good you pointed out that having a good sense of humor should not include laughing at the misfortunes of others…yes, those of us who take ourselves too seriously really suffer! Love!
This reminds me of two things. One is quote from Oscar Wilde: “Seriousness is the only refuge of the shallow.”
The other is the title of a book by Paul Watzlawick, “The Situation Is Hopeless, But Not Serious.”
ha ha ha….Wilde is wonderful as usual, but I like the second quote better!
So trueâ¦thanks Mira for the reminder! 🙂
It’s something I need to remind myself of all the time…love!
Thanks Mira, beautiful post and reminder – peace begins with each and everyone of us, to hold this in our hearts. We cannot change the world or anyone else, it begins with us individually. Love to you 🙂 and have a great weekend. How is Krishna doing, I hope good.
Thanks, Susan! Krishna is better…I think he’s stunned to feel ill…this is the first time he’s been sick since he came to me. Managed to get his medicines into his rebellious body this morning, such a relief! Much love and big hug!
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From the great writer and mystic yogini Mira Prabhu residing at Arunachala.
You are always so kind, Harsh, and I always feel like saying – no, no, no, I’m just another work-in-progress! Much love!
Is there a way to send a gift to ramanas ashram in India in terms of money ? It would be a gift donation but I don’t know how to go about it – my name is Eric Alexander and would appreciate hearing from you – (206) 755 6555 – thank you for your response !
Eric, can you do me a favor and send me this same message via the CONTACT section of this blog? We can speak more privately then. Om Arunachala!
Beautiful reminder Mira. ❤
Yes, everything passes!
In time, indeed. 🙂
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These musings and messages could easily define the word “wonderful.” Read on, see if any touch your soul.
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