Just last night my sister was telling me about a woman in an emotionally abusive relationship…a strong and independent woman in terms of career but who has put up with personal crap for way too long. Unfortunately she is now in her 70’s and so she does not want to leave her nest, however uncomfortable…she’s fighting back, however, but in ways I consider not too effective – striking back with words when he abuses her verbally in public etc – how does that help either of them, I wondered out loud? Then today I read this amazing post and thought again that the degree of abuse can be as extreme as this – and still women (or men) don’t walk – why? One of the biggest factors is shame. And in trad societies, it is complicated by a host of other factors – ostracism at the far end of the spectrum, because it is still almost always the fault of the woman when things go wrong. Tolle says that when we find ourselves in a bad relationship/situation, there are 3 options open to us: 1) transform the situation, 2) accept it or 3) walk. This is really how simple it is at core – to begin to love ourselves to the point that our freedom and dignity means more to us than anything “other” people can say or do to hurt us….bravo, Sharon Osbourne, for beginning your healing journey, and thank you, Jannie Styles, for sharing this….